Recovery Quotes: Beauty


































Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.
Confucius

Just because you are blind, and unable to see my beauty doesn't mean it does not exist.
Margaret Cho

Beauty - in projection and perceiving - is 99.9% attitude.
Grey Livingston

Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us or we find it not. 
Ralph Waldo Emerson

The fact is, there really is no such thing as 'normal' - everybody's different, and that is the essence of their beauty
Kevin Aucoin

Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It's about knowing and accepting who you are.
Ellen DeGeneres

Flawed, we're truly interesting, truly memorable, and yes, truly beautiful.
Justina Chen

Beauty is no quality in things themselves: It exists merely in the mind which contemplates them; and each mind perceives a different beauty.
David Hume

There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.
Steve Maraboli

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

It is amazing how complete is the delusion that beauty is goodness. 
Leo Tolstoy

There is no definition of beauty, but when you can see someone's spirit coming through, something unexplainable, that's beautiful to me.
Liv Tyler

People are more than just the way they look.
Madeleine L'Engle

Taking joy in living is a woman's best cosmetic.
Rosalind Russell

Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it with us, or we find it not.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you look closely at a tree you'll notice it's knots and dead branches, just like our bodies. What we learn is that beauty and imperfection go together wonderfully.
Matthew Fox

I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful, and if I could do that, maybe there is hope for them too. And the great divide between the beautiful and the ugly will cease to be, because we are all what we choose.
Margaret Cho

You are beautiful. Your beauty, just like your capacity for life, happiness, and success, is immeasurable.
Steve Maraboli

To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too.
Victoria Moran

There is no exquisite beauty… without some strangeness in the proportion.
Edgar Allan Poe

You don't have to be perfect to be pretty
Carson Kressley

Beauty comes in all sizes, not just size 5. 
Roseanne

The appearance of things changes according to the emotions; and thus we see magic and beauty in them, while the magic and beauty are really in ourselves.
 Kahlil Gibran

You are beautiful. Know this. Anyone who tells you otherwise is simply lying. You are beautiful.
Steve Maraboli

Beauty is the illumination of your soul.
John O'Donohue

Beauty isn't worth thinking about; what's important is your mind. You don't want a fifty-dollar haircut on a fifty-cent head.
Garrison Keillor

Glamour is a shooting star, it catches your eye, but fades away; beauty is the sun always brilliant day after day. 
Mike Dolan

Get Off The Scale!

You are beautiful. Your beauty, just like your capacity for life, happiness, and success, is immeasurable. Day after day, countless people across the globe get on a scale in search of validation of beauty and social acceptance.

Get off the scale! I have yet to see a scale that can tell you how enchanting your eyes are. I have yet to see a scale that can show you how wonderful your hair looks when the sun shines its glorious rays on it. I have yet to see a scale that can thank you for your compassion, sense of humor, and contagious smile. Get off the scale because I have yet to see one that can admire you for your perseverance when challenged in life.

It’s true; the scale can only give you a numerical reflection of your relationship with gravity. That’s it. It cannot measure beauty, talent, purpose, life force, possibility, strength, or love. Don’t give the scale more power than it has earned. Take note of the number, then get off the scale and live your life. You are beautiful!
Steve Maraboli

The best part of beauty is that which no picture can express.
P.C. Cast

Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.
Khalil Gibran

There is a kind of beauty in imperfection.
Conrad Hall

It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.
Maya Angelou

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair.
Audrey Hepburn

As if you were on fire from within.
The moon lives in the lining of your skin.
Pablo Neruda

Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.
Sophia Loren

By choosing healthy over skinny you are choosing self-love over self-judgment. You are beautiful!
Steve Maraboli,

Anything in any way beautiful derives its beauty from itself and asks nothing beyond itself. Praise is no part of it, for nothing is made worse or better by praise.
Marcus Aurelius

Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.
Rabindranath Tagore

What you do, the way you think, makes you beautiful.
Scott Westerfeld

I think happiness is what makes you pretty. Period. Happy people are beautiful. They become like a mirror and they reflect that happiness.
Drew Barrymore

The really magical things are the ones that happen right in front of you. A lot of the time you keep looking for beauty, but it is already there. And if you look with a bit more intention, you see it.
Vik Muniz

Beauty... when you look into a woman's eyes and see what is in her heart. 
Nate Dircks

Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror.
But you are the eternity and you are the mirror.
Kahlil Gibran

That which is striking and beautiful is not always good, but that which is good is always beautiful.
Ninon de L'Enclos

I don't like standard beauty - there is no beauty without strangeness.
Karl Lagerfeld

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Self-Defining Personal Beauty























Just because you are blind and unable to see my beauty doesn't mean it doesn't exist. 

I love this quote by Margaret Cho. "My beauty," she says. How potent a statement that is. She's not comparing herself to anyone else or condemning herself for not meeting the beauty standards so often set by society and so deeply ingrained in our culture. She is claiming her uniqueness, her personal beauty despite another's possible inability to see it for themselves. That's powerful!

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.
Confucius

We, all too often, fall into the trap of disliking ourselves simply because we don't look like the images we see everyday, an altered beauty that is impossible to achieve. Photoshopped thinness, erased blemishes and imperfections, plumped and distorted body parts have become the norm. We rely on these images and the opinions of others to define us, so much so that we have blinded ourselves to the beauty we posses... our personal, unique beauty.

If you look closely at a tree you'll notice it's knots and dead branches, just like our bodies. What we learn is that beauty and imperfection go together wonderfully.
Matthew Fox

There is a kind of beauty in imperfection.
Conrad Hall

How much time have you wasted by not recognizing your own beauty? How many things have you avoided because of how you perceive yourself? How much more are you willing to miss out on?

Beauty is not about how we look. Beauty is so much more. It's a glorious compilation of all the things that makes us who we are. It is self-defined. Self-defined. That makes it the responsibility of each of us to recognize it, nurture it, and proclaim it as our own no matter what anyone else thinks. 

It's time to reevaluate, redefine, and reaffirm our own personal beauty. It is time to refuse to let the blindness of others to affect our own sight. It is time to confidently present ourselves to the world with self-acceptance, self-love, and self-respect. That is positively mesmerizing. That is... beautiful!

Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.
Sophia Loren

There is no definition of beauty, but when you can see someone's spirit coming through, something unexplainable, that's beautiful to me.
Liv Tyler

Anything in any way beautiful derives its beauty from itself and asks nothing beyond itself. Praise is no part of it, for nothing is made worse or better by praise.
Marcus Aurelius


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Recovery Inspiration: Limitless
























The ability to accept, forgive, and let-go allows us to move forwards, beyond the pain. Unburdened, we become limitless.
MrsM. 


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Recovery Quote: We Are All Broken and Wounded























We are all broken and wounded in this world. Some choose to grow strong at the broken places.
Harold J Duarte-Bernhardt


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Recovery: Breathe, Believe, Begin






















Take a moment to be silent and breathe. Let go of perceived impossibilities and believe. What you desire will be yours if only you begin. 
MrsM

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Inspirational Recovery Quote: If You Want To Conquer Anxiety

















If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.
Amit Ray

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Eating Disorder Poetry: Eat, Please Eat.























Eat
Please eat
Let your body live
I know your mind is messy
I know the scale is hurting you        
Just eat
Eat
Let your self love
I know it feels like the end
I know you want to see bones
Eat ok?
Please just eat
Your bones will still be there
I promise they won't be crushed
I promise the fat won't hurt you
Eat
Put the food in
Let yourself smile again
Let yourself laugh
Stop starving
Eat
Deep down there is a little girl
She grew up way too fast
Let her out
Eat
She is starving
Under the fragile bones         
Under the bruises
Please eat
Eat
She needs you
You see her in pictures and dreams
She doesn't care what size her hips are
Eat
Pick up the fork
Let yourself fight
Let yourself have dreams
Eat     
Keep it down
Fight to live
Fight to follow your dreams
Fight for the self that wants to live
Let go
Eat
Written by Aria

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In Memory Of All Who Were Lost 9-11-01
















In memory of those who lost their lives on September 11, 2001.



9-11 by the numbers
9-11 by the names of those lost


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Recovery Quote: Your Struggle























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Don't let your struggle become your identity.

Ralston Bowles

Recovery Inspiration: The Choice Is Ours!



















  Life challenges our ability to accept, to forgive, to love, and to overcome. We can either face these challenges with grace and positivity, or relinquish our power and welcome defeat. The choice is ours!

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Recovery Image: The Hardest Work Of This New Day
















The hardest work of this new day has been taken care of; the sun has risen, the birds are singing, the breeze is blowing. The rest is my responsibility.
MrsM

Recovery Image: Start Your Day Right!















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Start your day right!
What are you filling your cup with?


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Eating Disorders News and Views: July 2 2013



















Amy Winehouse's brother: Bulimia is what really killed her
sheknows.com

ALEX WINEHOUSE TALKS ABOUT HIS SISTER, AMY

Amy Winehouse may have been no stranger to drugs and alcohol, but is bulimia largely to blame for her death? Her brother has opened up about the singer's eating disorder struggles. Though Amy Winehouse was well known to be battling alcohol and drug addiction for years before her death in 2011, her brother believes bulimia played a large part in killing her.
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No Bodies Perfect' eating disorder support group launches 
stv edinburg

 It was a ‘healthy eating’ project at secondary school that triggered Anna West’s obsession with calorie counting and weight loss.

 At only 14 years old, Anna began a volatile relationship with food that spiralled into cyclical anorexic and bulimic behaviour, officially diagnosed as EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified).

Many people with illnesses similar to Anna's identify with the term ‘bulimarexia’. For Anna, the knock-on effects of the illness have included anxiety, fatigue and ongoing damage to her stomach.

“I had become aware of the fact that I seemed to eat more than other girls and so began to cut down on the amount I was eating,” said Anna, 25, of her school days.
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Anorexia turned me into an old lady': Six-stone woman, 30, who dieted from the age of 10 to stay young is left with crumbling bones and varicose veins
DailyMail

A woman who has battled anorexia since the age of 10 has been left with the body of an elderly woman. Helen Gillespie, 30, has never developed breasts, had a boyfriend or moved out of her parents’ home. As a child she was so frightened of becoming an adult that she dramatically restricted her calorie intake to delay puberty. But ironically, far from maintaining a childlike appearance, her eating disorder has turned her body into that of into a frail old woman's - her bones are crumbling and she suffers from varicose veins.
'Doctors tell me I’ve got the bones of an 70-year-old woman,' said Helen, from Perth, Scotland.'They’re so weak that I broke my wrist after a fall when I was 14. If I don’t improve, I’ll continue to age prematurely.
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Important Changes in Eating Disorder Diagnoses in DSM-V
ANAD

The newest edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders includes some important changes in the diagnosis of various eating disorders. These changes will allow for more accurate diagnoses and better treatment plans for individuals affected by eating disorders.
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Kathy Benn, Mother Who Lost Daughter To Bulimia, Petitions Google To Combat Thinspo
Huffington Post

Kathy Benn believes her older daughter, Shelby Starner, had an epiphany on the night of June 22, 2003. Shelby, 19, had been struggling with bulimia for two years. That night, after having dinner with a good friend, she returned to their home in Strasburg, Pa., and confessed that she had purged once again. "This is not getting better. I want to change doctors," Benn remembers her daughter saying. Then Shelby went upstairs to study for the summer classes she was taking to prepare for her enrollment as a freshman at the University of Pittsburgh that fall. Two hours later Shelby was dead. As a result of her eating disorder, Benn says, Shelby was getting so few nutrients that her brain swelled, trying to create more surface area for maximum absorption. That swelling proved lethal. 
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'Men get eating disorders too' campaign
utv


Eating disorders are associated as being a problem that only affects teenage girls and young women, but that isn't the case.
Around 10% of the UK population diagnosed as having an eating disorder are men and it is believed that many more cases go undiagnosed.
The Nugent family tragically lost a son to an eating disorder.
Laurence Nugent lost his battle with bulimia three years ago, when he was 24.
"We didn't expect Laurence to pass away, not in a million years did we think that our son would die," his mother Pam explained.
"To this day we are in bereavement and Christopher has to cope with being an only child. And it is very difficult."
His mum believes that the support for men with eating disorders is severely lacking.

Recovery Image: Be Conscious of Your Treasures

























We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures. 
Thornton Wilder

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Inspirational Recovery Quotes: Define Yourself



















Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.
Harvey Fierstein

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Recovery: Don't Fear The Storm
























Don't fear the storm, rejoice instead in the flowers it wakes in its passing.
MrsM

Recovery Image: What We Think and Believe
























What we think and believe can either drag us down into the abyss, or pull us out of it! 
MrsM

Inspirational Recovery Quotes: Seize The Day!























All the windows of my heart I open to the day.

John Greenleaf Whittier

Today is the only day in which we have any power.
Steve Maraboli

Each day comes bearing its own gifts.  Untie the ribbons. 
Ruth Ann Schabacker

Every day is an opportunity to make a new happy ending. 
Unknown

Don't put off your happy life.
Unknown

Life moves pretty fast.  If you don't stop to look around once in a while you could miss it. 
Ferris Bueller's Day Off

Go for it now.  The future is promised to no one. 
Wayne Dyer

I would I could stand on a busy corner, hat in hand, and beg people to throw me all their wasted hours. 
Bernard Berenson

It doesn't matter what you did or where you were...it matters where you are and what you're doing. Get out there! Sing the song in your heart and NEVER let anyone shut you up!!
Steve Maraboli

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?
Mary Oliver

You only live once; but if you live it right, once is enough.
Adam Marshall

I say if it's going to be done, let's do it. Let's not put it in the hands of fate. Let's not put it in the hands of someone who doesn't know me. I know me best. Then take a breath and go ahead.
Anita Baker

I have spent my days stringing and unstringing my instrument, while the song I came to sing remains unsung. 
Tagore

Contemplation often makes life miserable.  We should act more, think less, and stop watching ourselves live. 
Nicolas de Chamfort

The question for each man is not what he would do if he had the means, time, influence, and educational advantages, but what he will do with the things he has. Hamilton

Your life isn't behind you; your memories are behind you. Your life is ALWAYS ahead of you. Today is a new day - seize it!
Steve Maraboli


If you woke up breathing, congratulations!  You have another chance. 
Andrea Boydston

Then indecision brings its own delays,
And days are lost lamenting o'er lost days.
Are you in earnest? Seize this very minute;
What you can do, or dream you can, begin it;
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Life is always walking up to us and saying, "Come on in, the living's fine," and what do we do? Back off and take its picture.
Russell Baker

No matter what your history has been, your destiny is what you create today.
Steve Maraboli

May you live all the days of your life. 
Jonathan Swift

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.
Thomas A. Edison

Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable. 
Sydney J. Harris

You may delay, but time will not.
Benjamin Franklin

When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive- to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love-then make that day count!
Steve Maraboli

Warning:  Dates in Calendar are closer than they appear. 
Unknown


I'm less interested in why we're here.  I'm wholly devoted to while we're here.
Erika Harris

To change one's life: Start immediately. Do it flamboyantly. No exceptions.
William James

You'll seldom experience regret for anything that you've done. It is what you haven't done that will torment you. The message, therefore, is clear. Do it! Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savor it. Value your present moments. Using them up in any self-defeating ways means you've lost them forever.
Wayne Dyer quotes

If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door. 
Milton Berle

There is great change to be experienced once you learn the power of letting go. Stop allowing anyone or anything control, limit, repress, or discourage you from being your true self! Today is YOURS to shape - own it - break free from people and things that poison or dilute your spirit.
Steve Maraboli

Plunge boldly into the thick of life, and seize it where you will, it is always interesting.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Lost time is never found again.
Benjamin Franklin

Don't wait for extraordinary opportunities. Seize common occasions and make them great. Weak men wait for opportunities; strong men make them.
Orison Swett Marden

I don't want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.
Diane Ackerman

You live longer once you realize that any time spent being unhappy is wasted.
Ruth E. Renkl

How did it get so late so soon?
It's night before it's afternoon.
December is here before it's June.
My goodness how the time has flewn.
How did it get so late so soon?
Dr. Seuss

We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. 
Japanese Proverb

Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghost of yesterday. Holding a grudge & harboring anger/resentment is poison to the soul. Get even with people...but not those who have hurt us, forget them, instead get even with those who have helped us.
Steve Maraboli

One can make a day of any size. 
John Muir

Fear not that life shall come to an end, but rather fear that it shall never have a beginning. 
John Henry Cardinal Newman

I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read and all the friends I want to see. 
John Burroughs

Don't be fooled by the calendar.  There are only as many days in the year as you make use of. 
Charles Richards

If you woke up breathing, congratulations! You have another chance.
Andrea Boydston

Begin doing what you want to do now.  We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand, and melting like a snowflake.
Marie Ray

Although time seems to fly, it never travels faster than one day at a time. Each day is a new opportunity to live your life to the fullest. In each waking day, you will find scores of blessings and opportunities for positive change. Do not let your TODAY be stolen by the unchangeable past or the indefinite future! Today is a new day!
Steve Maraboli

Who knows whether the gods will add tomorrow to the present hour?
Horace

Enjoy yourself.  It's later than you think.
Chinese Proverb

Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kite.  Or waiting around for Friday night or waiting perhaps for their Uncle Jake or a pot to boil or a better break or a string of pearls or a pair of pants or a wig with curls or another chance.  Everyone is just waiting. 
Dr. Seuss

Don't ever save anything for a special occasion.  Being alive is the special occasion. Unknown

Jumping at several small opportunities may get us there more quickly than waiting for one big one to come along. 
Hugh Allen


Today is a new day. Hiding from your history only shackles you to it. We can't undo a single thing we have ever done, but we can make decisions today that propel us to the life we want and towards the healing we need.
Steve Maraboli

Opportunity is often difficult to recognize; we usually expect it to beckon us with beepers and billboards. 
William Arthur Ward

Every day you are alive is a special occasion.  Every minute, every breath, is a gift from God. 
Mary Manin Morrissey

Spend the afternoon.  You can't take it with you. 
Annie Dillard

You will never find time for anything.  If you want time you must make it. 
Charles Buxton

Today is a new day. It's a day you have never seen before and will never see again. Stop telling yourself the 'same crap, different day' lie! How many days has that lie stolen from you? Seize the wonder and uniqueness of today! Recognize that throughout this beautiful day, you have an incredible amount of opportunities to move your life into the direction you want it to go.
Steve Maraboli

Minutes are worth more than money.  Spend them wisely. 
Thomas P. Murphy

Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways. 
Stephen Vincent Benét

I held a moment in my hand, brilliant as a star, fragile as a flower, a tiny sliver of one hour.  I dripped it carelessly, Ah!  I didn't know, I held opportunity. 
Hazel Lee

Most of us spend our lives as if we had another one in the bank. 
Ben Irwin

This moment is yours and yours alone! Take charge, seize this moment and allow it to propel you to the high levels of an empowered life. Allow upon this fertile moment to be planted the seeds of your happiness and success.
Steve Maraboli


When your life flashes before your eyes, make sure you've got plenty to watch.  Unknown

For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life.  But there was always some obstacle in the way.  Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid.  Then life would begin.  At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. 
Fr. Alfred D'Souza

When I look back now over my life and call to mind what I might have had simply for taking and did not take, my heart is like to break. 
William Hale White

Nothing is so often irretrievably missed as a daily opportunity. 
Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach

You may feel powerless as a child, but the world will one day be yours. And you're responsible for it. So, seize the day and take charge of it.
Harvey Fierstein

Your life isn't behind you; your memories are behind you. Your life is ALWAYS ahead of you. Today is a new day - seize it!
Steve Maraboli



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Recovery: Choose It!
























Recovery is worth every minute of the battle. Choose it! 
MrsM

Recovery: Letting Go Of What Was
























Recovery is the process of letting go of what was in order to create what will be.
MrsM

Recovery Quote Of The Week: Control and Decisions
























You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.
Maya Angelou

The Decision To Try: Recovery Quote
























Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try. 
Unknown

Who or What Is Pulling Your Strings?
























Don't become a puppet to other people's desires, live and create your life as you intended it to be. 
Steven Redhead

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Recovery Image: The Power Of The Past























The only power that the past possesses is the power that I choose to relinquish to it. 
MrsM

Accepting and Loving Your Body























Bodies. They come in all shapes and sizes. They are unique. Each one an original creation. Bodies are a true example of diversity. They do so much for us every day, yet we judge them by their appearance instead of accepting them and loving them as they are. We compare our bodies to the bodies of others. We scrutinize them, pick them apart, and find fault. We wish we had thinner thighs, bigger breasts, or flatter tummies. We wish we were taller, shorter, or less wide. We feel ashamed, embarrassed, and cheated by what we see in the mirror. We may hide ourselves, deprive ourselves, or berate ourselves because we feel our bodies are not good enough. We allow our bodies to define us.

It’s also helpful to realize that this very body that we have, that’s sitting right here right now…with its aches and its pleasures…is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive.
Pema Chodron


Why? 

Opinions vary and overlap about the whys of body dissatisfaction. One being that we are bombarded, everyday, by images of women (and men) that have been professionally lit, creatively photographed, and photoshopped resulting in a visual misrepresentation of reality. Despite the diversity of bodies in every day life, the media has created a narrowly defined and unattainable image of beauty.

A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience. 
Naomi Wolf 

Fortunately, these practices are no longer a carefully kept industry secret. Many have lifted the veil, exposed these methods, and informed the public. Search the internet and you'll find many examples of photoshopped fashion/beauty images that compare the true image to the final product. Actresses have come forward to speak out against their images being digitally manipulated. Some have bared their bodies as proof that what you see on a slickly designed magazine cover is not what you'd see in reality. There has also been a push to require photoshopped images to come with a warning/disclosure stating the image has been altered. 

We are raising a generation of children who see these images and believe them to be real. Children who are dieting in elementary school, or being diagnosed with an eating disorder at the age of 5. Grade school children who are focusing on their body's shortcomings and loving themselves less. 

So, what can we do about it?

We can stop buying into the hate. We can stop permitting an industry who relies on our dissatisfaction with ourselves (in order to make money) to dictate what beauty is. We can teach our children that what they see in the media has most likely been altered and is not a fair and true representation of the human body. We can lead by example by accepting ourselves and loving ourselves. We can start being grateful for all that our bodies do for us, and less concerned with how are bodies stack up against the hype. We can reteach ourselves to love our individuality. We can start by redefining beauty. We can begin by realizing that we are beautiful just as we are.

...say bye-bye to feeling bad about your looks.
Are you ready to stop colluding with a culture that makes so many of us feel physically inadequate? Say goodbye to your inner critic, and take this pledge to be kinder to yourself and others. .
Oprah Winfrey

Commit to accepting your body. Commit to loving and appreciating your body right now, just as you are. Take a step forward in the direction of body acceptance/love, and another step, and another step... every day.

There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.
Steve Maraboli

How are others doing it?

For me, loving my body is something that is a long way in the distance. However, accepting my body how it is is something I've accomplished. Just getting to that point was a long journey. By accepting myself, I've gained confidence. By gaining confidence, I've been able to love little things about myself. I am a curvy girl, but ED does not discriminate. Some of the little things I love are my curves and the shape of my legs. Learning to love little things has given me the peace of mind I need to get down to a HEALTHY weight HEALTHY way. Regular exercise, but not too much and eating healthy things without bingeing and without restricting. My recovery is only beginning, but I can't wait to love myself completely, fully, and unconditionally!!
Jessica, 17 yrs


I suffered with an eating disorder for many years and I have found that one of the hardest parts of recovery is learning to accept/love your body. For me it is something I still have to work at daily. For me the process really started with accepting that what I was reaching for was really unrealistic and my therapist pointed out to me that unless I literally got bone removed I would never achieve my goal. So it started with that realization and then my dietician was able to prove to me that no matter what eating disorder “behaviors I used” I was not really getting where I wanted to be. SO…I eventually had to accept that my body may be a little smarter than me and know where it needs to be. Now, I am simply at a place where I may not really like my body and I still have a struggle accepting that this is what I will look like forever…but I can accept that in this moment this is where I am and so I can torture myself or accept it .  Some steps I have had to take in my recovery have been to distance myself from media image on the internet, magazines, etc. Also, I have had to continually have an internally dialogue disputing my negative body thoughts and have had to start speaking up against others body bashing. Overall, it is a daily process and simply taking one more leap of faith, and one more step forward but it is worth the journey. I no longer take 3 hours to get dressed in the morning and am able to go shopping with my friends again…Also, at my Masters graduation for the first time in a long time I was able to take a picture and not start crying after seeing it! IT was a great feeling.
Kelly, 27 yrs 

 I am still in the process of learning to accept my body; however, I can see how far I have come. Acceptance began when I was respected sexually. My boyfriend, now husband, did not pressure me to have sex when I didn't want to. That opened the door to me reclaiming ownership of my body. Once I saw it as mine, I began practicing appreciating what it did for me. I put it through hell! Yet my body is resilient and bounced back. Now I am starting to be open to the idea that other things beside my weight determine my worth. Accepting that I am worth more than that number is awful because then I see all the pain poured into hating something that was really okay. .. but more than that it is amazing because I can finally have moments in life where I am content. 
Courtney, 24 yrs 

Learning to love and accept my body has been the hardest part in my recovery, and even though I consider myself free from Ed, I still find myself having "bad body" days. Days where I feel "fat" and don't want to do anything. But I have learned how to push through these days by remembering that the feelings won't last forever. They are bound to disappear because feelings are not fact and they come and go continuously. Feeling "fat" or gross one day does not mean you are in fact "fat" or gross. I've learned that tomorrow I will probably wake up feeling amazing about myself so I hold on to that thought and keep going. Remember that you are beautiful no matter how you feel inside or what those Ed thoughts are telling you. Fight back. 

Tayla, 20 yrs

I fight my battle with words, positive words and daily gratitude, words that give me a why: why should I keep my scale beneath the sink? Why should I love the girl in the mirror? Why is there more to life than counting (weight, calories, seconds on the treadmill...)? My why is puppy dog kisses and long walks in the mountains. My why is laughing with my siblings, cultivating a fulfilling career, writing in coffee shops on the weekends. My why is dreaming of a better future--working toward a future--and knowing that any future I take part in requires more than skin and bones. I still do math--in my head, walking past the mirror or as I crack my eggs for breakfast or tie on my walking shoes. But the words--positive words and gratitude--fill my head and crowd out the numbers, and, for today, I have the peace that lets me work toward a recovered tomorrow. 

 Kaila, 26 yrs 

Start living life fully now, in your present body… 

Linda Bacon 


 If you would like to share your experience with learning to accept/love your body to be added to this post, please email me at mrsmenopausal@yahoo.com.



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Recovery: How Much Longer?























How much longer are you going to allow your value to be determined by your appearance? How much longer will you put off joy in wait of that one thing that will finally make you deserving? How much longer are you willing to deprive yourself of happiness because of a number, a history, a preconceived notion of beauty? How much longer?
MrsM

Dear Body: A Letter of Apology and Gratitude














Dear Body,
I know that we haven't always been close or even on friendly terms and the amount of abuse that you have suffered at my expense is astronomical but I am here to apologize and show my gratitude.

I am sorry for using you as a way to convey my pain and suffering. For all of the times that I starved you and overexercised to get my point across. For all of the harsh words that were uttered in your direction in order to avoid my true fears and feelings. For every time I walked past a mirror and shuttered at you/my reflection. For losing trust in your ability to function and do your thing. I am sorry for trying to manipulate you in ways that were harmful. For punishing you when you were not the one to blame. For taking out every hateful and painful thing that has ever been done to me, on you. But I am mostly sorry for using you as my voice when I couldn't find mine.

Body, I think your resilience is amazing. Thank you so much for continuing to fight when I had stopped and for never giving up on me. For continuing to function when you were past running on empty. Thank you for never completely giving out on me. But even more so, thanks for the reminders that I was still alive; the horrible pangs of hunger that couldn't be ignored, the fatigue, dizziness and lack of energy that no amount of sleep could cure and even the never ending coldness and the temporary loss of my period over the years. Although I usually reacted with anger and further destruction, these signs forced me to see the truth. Forced me to face the reality of the situation that I was killing myself. That I am human and not invincible. And I am thankful for these reminders before it was too late.

Thank you legs for being pillars of strength. For allowing me to walk, run and be a great athlete. For enduring long obsessive workouts and a lot of scrutiny from me. For being muscular and never letting me forget where I come from. Thighs and calves, I am sorry for cursing your size, trying to make you smaller and berating you for your inability to fit in skinny jeans. Without you I wouldn't have been able and continue to be able to do a lot of cool things like triathlons, tread water, rock climb and even walk the dog. Butt, I am sorry for trying to make you disappear and for cringing every time I catch a glimpse of you in the mirror. I hope to one day appreciate you and compliment you as much as John does. Hips, thanks for being wide and pronounced. One day you are going to make being pregnant and having a kid a little easier. Chest, I know that we have had a love hate relationship, but independent of your size, thanks for reminding me that I am a woman. Arms, shoulders and back, thanks for being strong. For allowing me to swim and for gracefully enduring all of the lengthy training and workouts that I have put you through. I am sorry for the years that I spent angry at you for being broad and for all of the times I stood in the dressing room defeated because you couldn't fit comfortably in a certain shirt or dress. You allow me to do awesome things like kayak, cuddle, hug and carry children.

I am sorry for all of the times that I believed that weight loss was the answer and forced you down to sizes that were not healthy and put you into survival mode. Organs, I am sorry for forcing you to work overtime and even start to shut down because of my overexertion and lack of nourishment. I am sorry for allowing you to be touched inappropriately and for repeatedly enduring abuse by others. I am sorry for not speaking up on your behalf and saying no. But mostly I am sorry for continuing the abuse and self hatred, even after others stopped.

Body, I know that we have been through hell together and that there are still a lot of reparations to be made and that you are still hesitant and questioning my intentions. I know that gaining back my trust is going to take time but I am so glad to be able to call you home. Just like you never gave up on me, I will never give up on you ever again. Although I know that there will be slips on the way and I might not always show my love and appreciation so openly, I am looking forward to reconnecting with you; learning how to listen to your signals, feed you properly, rest when needed, trust your abilities and wisdom, as well as appreciate your strength, size and beauty. I know you may not believe this after all of the abuse and pain that I have put you through, but I think you are amazing and I am glad to call you mine.

Love,
Daniella

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