Recovery is the process of letting go of what was in order to create what will be.
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Recovery: Letting Go Of What Was
Recovery is the process of letting go of what was in order to create what will be.
MrsM
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commentsRecovery Image: The Power Of The Past
The only power that the past possesses is the power that I choose to relinquish to it.
MrsM
Inspirational Recovery: I'll Rise
Now you may shoot me with your words
You may cut me with your eyes
and I'll rise
I'll rise...
Out of the shacks of
history's shame
Up from a past rooted
in pain
I'll rise...
Ben Harper
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5 Ways to Create Balance Of Influence In Recovery
When you’re feeling defeated, down, or overwhelmed do you reach out to someone who has a way of making you feel worse, or making you feeling better?
Most of us reach out to the people who make us feel that,
eventually, everything is going to be okay. We seek out the ones who put things into perspective and make us
realize that we are stronger than we think, more capable than we give ourselves
credit for, and more deserving than we feel. We solicit support from those who are able to show us that
all is not lost.
We do this because their attitude inspires our own. Their support helps us to drag our
current feelings, or situation, out of the dark and hold it up to a new
light. They show us a new
perspective. They give us hope.
It's funny. Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive
people can change your whole outlook on life. The opposite is also true.
Unknown
Who we choose to surround ourselves with has an affect on
us, as does what we surround ourselves with.
Though we find comfort in things that reassure us that we
are not alone, we need to be sure that we create balance with resources that
inspire us to take action, to believe in ourselves, and to move forward when we may least feel like it. Creating an inventory of positive, motivating, and
encouraging influences is one way of doing just that and is vital to recovery.
5 ways to create more positive influences in recovery:
1. Your inner and
outer voice: What you think and what you say about yourself has a deep
impact on your subconscious and on outcome. They can derail efforts or bolster
them. The choice is yours.
Replace negativity with positivity. Repetitiveness is key.
Positivity grows stronger the more you make it a part of your daily life, a
part of yourself. It takes a conscious effort to replace the old voices of
doubt, shame, and inadequacy but every time that you do you create possibility
and hope. You forge a new path.
2. Ditch the negative
support/encouragement: If it's an encouragement to continue what you're
looking to change, or it triggers emotions and behaviors that are dangerous to
your wellbeing, then it's not a healthy resource for recovery. Take an honest account of what you’re
surrounding yourself with and let go of what does not benefit you or your
recovery. (see also: Is What You're Holding On To Holding You Back?)
3. Increase Positive
Resources: Seek out both online and offline resources that are supportive,
loving, and encouraging for you in your recovery. These can include, but are
not limited to, recovery sites, online and offline mentoring, counseling, supportive
family and friends, recovery books, support groups, affirmations... (see also: Finding Support)
4. Positivity
Journal: Journaling is an
excellent tool for recovery.
Create a positivity journal. Each day write down what has inspired you
and what you appreciate about yourself and your day (no matter how small). Find a quote, affirmation, or song
lyric to serve as the theme of the day and write it down. Repeat it to yourself
throughout the day. Fill the journal with things that inspire you. Absolutely
NO negativity is allowed in this journal.
NONE. Fill the pages with what makes you happy. Write in it EVERY day.
Read it often. (see also:
Self-Love Jar)
5. Meditate, Visualize,
Self-Soothe: These are great
ways to distress, refocus, create feelings of calmness, and rejuvenate each
day. They are each a great way to bolster positivity and recovery. Give them a try.
How to:
Be patient with yourself. Allow for mistakes, let go of them, and move forward. You are capable and worthy of recovery.
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Recovery Image: Choose To Bloom
The most beautiful flowers are those that, despite overwhelming odds, plant their seeds of hope and reach for the sun. Be resilient, persevere... choose to bloom!
MrsM
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Recovery Inspiration Image: Change
Take time for yourself each day to dream, to visualize, and to plan the life you want for yourself. Change is not built on wishes alone.
MrsM
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Recovery: To Do List
To Do List
1). let go of negativity
2). be kind to myself
3). believe in myself
4). forgive
5). nourish my body
6). feed my soul
7). move forward
8). reach out
9). create change
10). count my blessings
Recovery Inspiration: I Choose Recovery
I choose recovery because I'm worth it!
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Recovery Quote Of The Week: October 8, 2012
Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amid the storm.
Unknown
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Recovery: Is What's Holding You Back Worth Holding On To?
Past experiences, and the emotions that accompany them, all serve a purpose. We learn by doing, observing, and by making mistakes. We file those lessons away for future reference and we draw upon them to help us navigate the present. There's nothing wrong with this process unless, that is, it becomes the most used (if not only) navigation tool we possess. We, and the world around us, are in constant change. Even the tiniest deviation from the circumstances in which we found ourselves previously will have an influence on the outcome today.
For an example, when you were a child you were taught that fire burns. It's dangerous. You were told not to touch it because it will hurt you. That lesson is still with you as an adult but now you know how to use fire to your advantage. You had to adjust the lesson of your past in order to use fire safely to light a candle, to cook, to warm yourself by.
But what if you only held on to the first lesson learned and didn't deviate from it over the years? How different would your life be?
When we don't update the lessons of our past, we hinder the progress of our present. We create a wall of fear and self-doubt. The past becomes a proverbial prison, holding us back from moving forward and living and enjoying our lives as we are meant to.
The same holds true for how we define ourselves. What happened in the past is not our permanent definition. It's not a gauge for what is possible in the present. Who we were then does not determine who we are now.
Do you hold yourself in constant accountability for the mistakes you made as a young child and allow them to decide who you are today? Of course not, because we understand that those mistakes were made because we didn't know any better, we were learning, and we had some growing up to do. Despite what we may think, this is true no matter what our age. We are constantly learning and growing along the way, even if we don't realize it. Because of this, it's nearly impossible to be who you used to be. There are just too many variables.
When self is constantly confined and defined by the past there is no forward movement, no progress. Past lessons no longer serve the purpose they are intended to but, instead, hold us captive. This is why it is so important to examine what we're holding on to, to be sure that it's not holding us back from the life we are deserving of.
Letting go of what's holding you back takes self-examination, patience and forgiveness.
Ask yourself if what you're holding on to is:
- relevant in your life today
- outdated thoughts/beliefs
- positive and supportive
- keeping you from being yourself
- keeping you from moving foward
- detrimental to how you feel about yourself
- causing you anxiety, fear, shame, or guilt
- causing feelings of inadequacy
- making you feel undeserving of love, success, happiness, or joy
If you find that your answers are mostly negative, it's time for some updating and clearing out.
It's okay to let go of those lessons that are no longer pertinent to the life you desire and deserve. Just because they served their purpose then, doesn't mean that they still do. No matter what the past holds, you are who you decide to be today. The life you desire for yourself is achieved one thought, one belief, one small change at a time.
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Recovery: What Are You Afraid Of?
If so, you are not alone. It's really quite common to feel this way.
Why, when we know something is good for us, do we feel afraid of it?
The reasons vary. Individual experiences come into play. Reasons can range from simple to complicated, making it difficult to narrow it down to one, simple answer. When an eating disorder is also part of the equation, the whys can become even more complicated. Change and control, though, are major factors for almost everyone.
Change is scary. You're taking a risk. You're leaving behind familiar territory for the unknown. There's comfort in the familiar, even when the familiar is a horrible place to be, because you know it well. The ins, the outs, the lows, the highs ... there's not much that can surprise you, not much to catch you off guard and throw you off kilter.
Fear of losing what little control you have can be scary, too. How can you control the unknown? You may have mastered controlling and navigating your current situation so well that the thought of relinquishing that control may feel too scary to even contemplate. But...
You must surrender your fears.
It's not easy to let go, even when what we're holding on to is what we most need to let go of. But, letting go is necessary to achieve change and change is necessary to achieve recovery. We have to be willing to venture out of our comfort zone and let go of what currently is, in order to begin creating what can be.
"The only way out is through."
So how do you let go despite the fear?
With practice and patience. Acknowledge your fear. Recognize it for what it truly is, and then move forward regardless. Each time you deny your fear the chance to be in charge you gain confidence and courage, making the next time a little bit easier. Soon, what you once thought impossible, becomes reality.
You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Eleanor Roosevelt
Here are some suggestions and links to help with the process:
- Keep your thoughts and words positive. Use positive, encouraging self-talk.
- Visualize the change you desire in a positive light.
- Believe in your ability to overcome your fears, to change, and to recover.
- Have faith.
- Make a 2 column list. On one side list what you're afraid of, the other side list why that fear is invalid (or how to let it go).
- Seek reinforcements (counseling, mentoring, organizations, people in recovery, supportive family and friends, recovery sites and forums)
- Stay honest with yourself and others.
- Be kind and patient with yourself. Change takes time. Recovery takes time.
- Get involved in something creative (writing, sketching, dance, doodling, painting, crafts,...). It gives you something positive to put your energy into and is a great outlet for stress and anxiety.
- Remember the recovery sayings; "Fake it 'til you make it," and "Act as if". Doing this gives you a taste of what it feels like to achieve the change you're seeking. It sets your mind on track. (It doesn't mean to lie to yourself, or others, in an attempt to deceive)
- Journal.
- Use affirmations throughout the day and at bedtime.
- Choose a mantra to say to yourself whenever you're feeling less than brave (example: I am not my fear. I am capable of moving past these feelings. I can accomplish anything I set my mind to. I believe in myself). Repeat, repeat, repeat.
- Surround yourself with positive influences.
- Create a recovery sound track of music that makes you feel good.
- Create a recovery feel good image file. Fill it with things that make you feel good, strong, serene. (Do not use anything that relates to the body, weight, or appearance in any way).
- Take care of yourself every day.
- Create a Relapse Prevention Plan.
- Give yourself credit when you make even the smallest progress. Each positive step is a victory. Celebrate it!
- When you feel overwhelmed, turn it over to your higher power.
Recovery Is Possible! You are capable, worthy, and deserving of it!
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Recovery Inspiration: Happiness
Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you. But if you turn your attention to other things it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.
Henry David Thoreau image source:http://www.flickr.com/photos/angelic0devil6/2148755799/in/photostream/
Recovery Inspiration: Courage is...
MrsM
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Recovery Inspiration: Never Stop Fighting. Never Lose Faith
No one is ever too broken, too scarred, or too far-gone to create change.
Never Stop Fighting. Never lose faith.
MrsM
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Eating Disorders Awareness: Pro-Recovery Project
Last week I had the pleasure of participating in a Pro-Recovery Project with 11 other bloggers to help raise awareness about Eating Disorders. Each blogger shared their views on, and reasons for, recovery.
Check out their inspiring posts:
Together We Can Recover
A Piece Of Me
Until Eating Disorders Are No More
Be Inspired
Life After Anorexia
Lost In Translation
Just As I Am
Fighting Anorexia
Actively Arielle: A Voice With A Commitment
A Pensive Insight
Creating A Path To Wellness
Weighing The Facts
Recovery Is Possible!
Eating Disorders Awareness Week 2012: Choosing Recovery
It's the first day of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, 2012.
Let's talk about RECOVERY...
What is an Eating Disorder?
eating disorder
Function: noun
: any of several psychological disorders (as anorexia nervosa or bulimia) characterized by serious disturbances of eating behavior
Eating disorders involve extreme behaviors, attitudes, and feelings surrounding food, weight, and body image which are harmful to a person's health and well-being.
Eating disorders are dangerous and can be fatal.
Though someone may be suffering from one eating disorder, they may also exhibit behaviors /traits of other eating disorders (or trade one eating disorder for another).
Eating Disorders Symptoms
Do I have an eating disorder? (self-assessment tests)
Is Recovery Possible?
Many, many people have recovered from their eating disorder and gone on to live healthily and happily. It takes time. It's a process. You can expect to experience ups and downs along the way but it is definitely possible.
What defines Recovery from an Eating Disorder?
Opinions vary, both medically and individually, but my favorite description of recovery is found in the book 8 Keys to Recovery from an Eating Disorder: Effective Strategies from Therapeutic Practice and Personal Experience by Carolyn Costin and Gwen Schubert Grabb. It says;
Being recovered is when the person can accept his or her natural body size and shape and no longer has a self-destructive relationship with food or exercise. When you are recovered, food and weight take a proper perspective in your life, and what you weigh is not more important than who you are; in fact, actual numbers are of little or no importance at all. When recovered, you will not compromise your health or betray your soul to look a certain way, wear a certain size, or reach a certain number on the scale. When you are recovered, you do not use eating disorder behaviors to deal with, distract from, or cope with other problems.
Why would I want to Recover? What are the benefits?
The benefits are too many to list in full. Here are just a few:
- Increased Energy
- A better sense of self
- Self-respect
- Self-acceptance
- Self-confidence
- Being more comfortable around others
- Being more comfortable in your own body
- Physical and emotional strength
- Feeling more peaceful
- Increased passion for life
- A better appreciation for your body
- A more comfortable relationship with food
- Better relationships with family and friends
- Better physical and emotional health
- Healthier hair, skin, and nails
- Longer life expectancy
- A more loving relationship with yourself
What steps do I need to take to Recover?
The first step is admitting that you have an eating disorder.
The second step is to decide that you want to recover.
Step three is to find professional eating disorder treatment.
There are several options available for professional help in recovering.
Here are a couple of resources to help you with deciding your plan of action for recovery:
Something Fishy
Help Guide. org
Check out the non-profit org, Mentor Connect for recovery mentoring. It's free.
Here is a list of more Eating Disorder Organizations and websites that you can contact for help and info.
What can I do, in addition to professional eating disorder treatment, to enhance my recovery efforts?
here are a few suggestions:
- surround yourself with positive, loving, supportive people
- journal
- use positive affirmations each morning, at bedtime, and throughout the day.
- join a support group
- visit positive recovery forums and sites
- take time for yourself
- be forgiving, kind, and loving to yourself
- be patient
- take a step back, and rethink before reacting
- make a relapse prevention plan
- take care of yourself
- nurture your mind, your body, and your spirit, daily
- volunteer/help others
I asked readers three questions about recovery:
1.What has recovery meant for you?
2.What are the benefits of recovery?
3.How did you deal with your emotions when ED was speaking louder than your recovery?
Here are their amazing and insightful answers:
A said: Recovery for me has been an awakening of my real and authentic self. I lived for so long in the grips of ED and yearning for approval and acceptance from others. I was constantly looking outwards and thought that if I could fix the external aspects of myself, somehow I would be happy. Once I admitted to myself that I needed help and asked for it, I realized that the only way to happiness was to seek within first.
The days when ED yelled in my head and tried to break me down, I yelled back and constantly challenged my distorted thoughts. With the help of a wonderful therapist, family, and friends, I began to see that ED was very simple, black-and-white, and that I wasn't any of those things.
The benefits of recovery are that I actually accept and like myself just as I am. I am my own best friend instead of my own worst enemy. Most days I can see myself clearly and I am beautiful, inside and outside. Recovery for me is about choosing love and life, and I have never looked back.
S said: I want to be in healthy relationships with those close to me. I want companionship but I also want the capability to live alone. I want to use food as fuel not as an emotional crutch. I want to have a healthy body, regardless of its size. I want to be okay with the resulting size.
I want to sprint towards life, not away from death. I want to run a marathon and be healthy enough to do so. I want to compete in challenges regardless of fear of failure. I want to chase down every dream and capture them. I want to live.
L said: Recovery means peace and freedom to me. The benefits are wonderful - no more shouting in my head, able to work, smiling and laughing without the guilt, meeting friends for a cheeky drink or two etc.
When my ed spoke louder than my recovery I did my best to not respond. It was a struggle to get through the days without giving into it but I wanted to prove it wrong. So I did :)
B said: Recovery means to be me that i will be strong (mentally and physically) and healthy. Recovery will allow me to love myself and my body and accept that i can not be perfect because no one actually is. Recovery shows me everyday that i can do anything.
The benefit of recovery is that i will be happy and truly learn to love life and myself. I have learned that being a smaller size is not a good thing, and a healthy size is a good thing.
I've learned to say, "No, I'm not listening to you" or "You already said that." I deal with my emotions by repeating positive quotes or watching a pro-recovery video on youtube. I've found that writing down all the negative comments my ED makes and then counteracting them with positive ones is the best. But, above all, i refuse to restrict and let my ED win me over because I'm stronger than that.
K said: I am not in recovery yet, in all reality I think I'm relapsing, but I still have my hopes and dreams. Recovery means freedom and time. Freedom to think about things. Freedom to act with integrity to myself. Freedom to not hide myself. It will mean all the time I spend obsessing about my disordered behaviours can be spent on the life I want to live.
One day - this ED won't even be an option for me. I'll face stressful situations with a healthy set of coping skills. At the moment my flirtations with recovery, ED has still been an option. But I want to fight this, I need to fight this, so one day I'll look back at the journey I've taken and know I'll never go back.
Life with an ED is a half life, a life in the shadows. I want more. I will get there. There isn't an alternative.
Choose Recovery! When you have an eating disorder, recovery is the most important factor in being able to live a healthy, happier life... to living the life you deserve. Recovery will cause the world to open up wide so that you can experience it completely and enjoy the life you desire for yourself.
see sidebar menu for more recovery inspiration
©Weighing The Facts
resources:
8 keys to recovery excerpt http://blogs.psychcentral.com/weightless/2011/08/what-full-recovery-from-an-eating-disorder-means/
Eating Disorders Recovery: A Request For Help
In response to several emails and comments concerning recovery, I'd like to invite you to share your recovery experience here, on Weighing The Facts, so that others who are struggling can benefit.
There's so much to be gained from reading/hearing what others have been through and how they manage to survive the struggle, emotions, set backs, doubts, and fears that are so much a part of the journey. No matter what your story, there is a common connection and that connection is powerful and healing. You can make a difference, inspire others, and help reinforce the fact that recovery is indeed possible.
If you would like to help please send me an email at mrsmenopausal@yahoo.com. I plan on compiling all entries into one post.
Please submit only original work and include if you would like to remain anonymous, be credited by a pen name, or your real name.
I'm setting a deadline of February 20th so the post can be a part of Eating Disorders Awareness Month 2012.
I hope you'll participate.
Thank you,
MrsM
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This Week's R.I.S.E. :What Would You Say To A Friend?
This week's R.I.S.E. (Recovery Inspiration Strength Exercise) is What would you say to a friend?
Have you ever noticed that when someone you care about is hurting that you're able to give support, comfort, and advice from a place of love that seems reserved just for them? Do you ever hear what you're saying and think, "why can I say this to someone else and not to myself?"
For many of us, we see other people's problems and solutions much clearer than we see our own. Sometimes the solution seems so obvious and uncomplicated. Even complicated solutions still seem doable. Why is that? The reasons range from complicated to down right simple.
We're just too close to the problem.
Everything seems harder to accomplish when it's personal. It gets bogged down in the muck of our personal "stuff."
We're dealing with things like:
- Our past experiences/history
- How we feel about ourselves
- Fear of change
- Fear of failure
- Feeling undeserving
So this week take a problem you're dealing with and pretend you're advising, comforting, and supporting a friend. Writing it down in letter form will help you reach your true "friend" voice (Dear insert your name here ). Don't read it when you're done writing it. Put it away for a day... or three. When you have a few moments to be all alone, grab yourself a cup of warm tea, settle into a comfy spot, and read it, slowly. Then read it again, out loud.
Now, follow your own advice.
You are deserving, and worthy of it.
©Weighing The Facts
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This Week's R.I.S.E. : Kisses In Your Pocket
This week's R.I.S.E. (Recovery Inspiration Strength Exercise) is Kisses In Your Pocket.
Years ago, when my now grown son was little, I gave him something to help buffer the insecurity he was feeling at the thought of the unknown ... being away from me for part of the day while he attended preschool. Each day I put on some lipstick and covered a piece of paper with kisses for him to keep in his pocket. Each time he felt he needed it, he could pull out that little slip of paper and take a kiss of encouragement. It was enough to see him through those days he felt unsure or anxious.
Years earlier my husband was in a horrible accident. Surviving it was a miracle. The road ahead was uncertain. One night, while I was spending the night in the hospital solarium, I met a patient who couldn't sleep. We got to talking. He told me his story, and I told him my husband's. He took a necklace from around his neck, removed the old, worn medal of St. Michael and asked me to give it to my husband. He told me how it had seen him through so much and he wanted him to have it. My husband kept that medal with him at all times, switching it his wallet when he was released. It reminded him to stay strong, to hang in there, he could do this.
Sometimes, all we need is a little something that says to us "you can do this, you're going to be okay, this moment of struggle is going to pass."
So this week put some kisses in your pocket. Choose something easily carried with you. Break it out whenever it's needed and draw strength from what it symbolizes. You CAN do this!
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©Weighing The Facts
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